Got this question in from Anon this morning:
There is a variety of Dom "types". Do strict Doms consider Daddy Doms to be weak or overly involved?
Now this is a really good question that's got me thinking while I'm still drinking my first coffee of the day. I'll try and make my answer coherent....
I love that in the BDSM world there's so much variety and diversity. I love exploring those differences when I'm talking to other people about it, so I tend not to think of 'Dom' in the nature of a job description, with a list of specific generic requirements. I think there's as many different types of 'Dom' around as there are people.
Do strict Dom's consider Daddy Dom's to be weak or overly involved though? I have no idea. I'm guessing some do, some don't, some won't give a shit, and some have never given it any thought at all.
Speaking for me personally, I have difficulty with mentally divorcing the Father/Daughter roles from the Daddy/sub dynamic, and so because of that it automatically reminds me of sexual abuse of children and makes me feel very uneasy. I know that's not what it is, so don't be getting all uppitty and pissed off. I'm trying to explain this.
I love that in the BDSM world there's so much variety and diversity. I love exploring those differences when I'm talking to other people about it, so I tend not to think of 'Dom' in the nature of a job description, with a list of specific generic requirements. I think there's as many different types of 'Dom' around as there are people.
Do strict Dom's consider Daddy Dom's to be weak or overly involved though? I have no idea. I'm guessing some do, some don't, some won't give a shit, and some have never given it any thought at all.
Speaking for me personally, I have difficulty with mentally divorcing the Father/Daughter roles from the Daddy/sub dynamic, and so because of that it automatically reminds me of sexual abuse of children and makes me feel very uneasy. I know that's not what it is, so don't be getting all uppitty and pissed off. I'm trying to explain this.
I know that's not what it's about, but it makes me feel uneasy, and so do pictures of pornstars dressed in school uniforms, or as cheerleaders. While I can know that the person in that particular image is Debbie McDildo from Dundee aged 24, the way the image is shot seems to me to be targetting guys getting off on girls dressed like schoolkids. So that creeps me out.
Because it creeps me out, I haven't gone snooping and investigating and reading up on 'Daddy Dom's' and to what level they get involved, what the common activities are that they engage in with their sub. I'll happily admit I'm speaking from a position of ignorance, and the same goes for whatever your definition of strict Dom's is.
I don't consider myself a strict Dom. I won't order a sub around unless it's playtime. I want her to be a real person and not someone who only exists to obey my commands with no power of free will for herself. But again, I'm assuming that's what you mean by strict Dom.
The joyous diversity of BDSM.
So the short version of the answer. I've no idea if they think Daddy Dom's are weak. I know they creep me out a bit and I've explained why, and I've also admitted that I'm ignorant of the facts.
Fucking good question, Anon!
JJ
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