The Methadone Romance

So it occurs to me that I haven't written anything since Saturday. No bloggery, just imagery and a couple of links. So while this isn't a properly thought out and researched piece on some facet of perversion that floats my boat, I wanted to briefly touch on something I posted on a forum a few weeks back.

It was regarding the value of an online Dom/sub relationship.

I made a point that having an online relationship with someone can be exciting, dramatic, romantic, passionate and many other things, but at the end of the day it's never going to be anything other than Methadone. 

Now, for those of you who are having trouble placing what Methadone is, it's the drug they give to Heroin addicts here in the UK as a lesser substitute to keep them off Heroin. A bit like margarine is to butter, I guess. It's similar, but it's not the real thing.

My point about an online relationship, a cyber-affair, e-love if you will, was that if you're going online to find something, it's because you want it. You want it as part of your life, regardless if you have the courage to actually go through with it or not. The desire for it is there, though. Doing it online is a way to try it without actually doing it, like dipping your toe in the proverbial cold swimming pool. The water might be cold, but you're not in it.

I get that people are in relationships, sometimes their partners don't give them what they want, or aren't into the more extreme aspects of sex, so they go online looking to fulfill that need. I don't have an issue with what people do. Go for it. It's a form of experimentation too, and that's a good thing in my book, providing no-one's getting hurt by it.

But let's not lose perspective here. Mucking around online, messaging, texts, photos, webcams, forums, PM's, emails, even phone calls. They're not the real thing. They're the methadone. 

Happy to hear anyone's thoughts on this. Anon's can comment too.

JJ