Readers Comments: The Writers Perspective

So this is a blog post that I've had trouble deciding if I should post or not. 

Readers comments come in many different ways, all manner of shapes and sizes, which makes sense if you think about it. Everyone has opinions, everyone is shaped by their experiences. Some people are selfish, some are generous, some people are nice and some people are assholes. So you get comments from all sorts. 

Here's a comment I got today from an Anonymous Lit reader:

"42 PAGES ARE YOU CRAZY! 90% of the readers here will never read this due to it being 42 pages in one shot. you say you are writing for yourself not the readers thats fine just don't post it. if you are writing for the readers and care about them you will write stories no longer than 4 pages per chapter. if you have any brains and care at all about the readers enjoyment then you will delete this and break it up into 10-11 chapters and use a good editor. SHOW SOME PRIDE IN YOUR WORK AND A WHOLE LOT OF RESPECT FOR THE READERS AND EITHER DO IT RIGHT OR NOT AT ALL. SOME OF US ARE ON PUBLIC COMPUTERS AND CAN NOT BOOKMARK STORIES OR JOIN SITES LIKE THIS AND YOU RUIN THE SITE FOR US THINK BEFORE POSTING AGAIN."

So I'm ruining Literotica by posting The Island? Interesting viewpoint and apparently I have no respect for the readers either because I didn't post it around the schedule of those who have to use public computers and can't join a free website as members? And if I have any brains I'll delete it? 

lol... somehow I don't think posting comments in this style is going to increase my respect for the readers, especially from an Anonymous commenter, who rants at me because I haven't posted a story that fits in with his allocated fap time. 

The sad thing is, however valid a point he may have, making his point in that fashion isn't going to get anyone to listen. Me particularly.

Then on the other hand you get comments like these:

"This story is absolutely amazing. Best ever. You wrote it so nicely that there has to be follow up stories. Shell Shocked! "

"The story was great, Detailed, thorough and exciting. I think a sequel would be cool, expanding the relationships between the characters, The triplets, Sarah, Patricia, Casey and Margerita, there's so much potiential. I really hope you consider a sequel, or several even.
thanks. "

"Truly awesome.I can't take my eyes off this story.we really need continuation for this story.Looking forward for more on this. Really want to know more about what happens next in their lives!! "

I like comments like these, but who wouldn't. It's appreciation, approval and feedback from some genuine enjoyment, something I would think every writer enjoys. But let's not get ahead of ourselves here. Perhaps the people here have genuinely discerning taste buy maybe they don't. For all I know their boxes could be ticked simply by having a blonde woman in the story who likes it up the ass. I don't know. Truthfully, there's no way I can know because there's no way of quantifying the level of their enjoyment or taste, so I can't place any weight on their words.

That all being said, I LOVE reading the positive comments. I'm a sucker and I can't help it.

There are other types of comments though. I've had emails from grammar nazi's, some helpful and some just moronic. I've had dozens from people with suggestions for what should follow, usually based around what their own fantasies are. Some of them fit what the characters would do and some are so far out there it's unbelievable, but these comments are more about what the reader would like to read than what the characters themselves would do. They're all valid, and they're all honest, which I like. 

Then there's the comments that come back with something constructive. For instance telling me areas of the story that they didn't quite buy into, or where they think I dropped the ball, and not just saying I did, but explaining what they mean, where they think I went wrong or could have done better or where a particular part of the story needs fleshed out. These comments to me are really helpful. They're giving me the viewpoint of a stranger, an observer watching the story unfold as they read and when things don't quite fit, they take the time to let me know. To me, this is hugely valuable. It's an opportunity to learn from mistakes that I can't see because I'm too close, or to note down things that need addressed in the sequel(s) if at all possible. 

Over the last few weeks, editing and re-writing The Island, I've been able to address nearly all of these constructive comments, or plot them into the following stories, and as a result, the readers who have taken the time to be helpful haven't wasted that time. Their comments have value.

The positive comments, the messages of support and the suggestions, pleads, questions and rants for more stories have given me the confidence to continue with it because I know that out there, there's people who want to read what I've written.

As for the negative comments? The haters, the rude, the obnoxious, the selfish or the assholes... fuck them. Their words have no value. Their comments are usually either about their needs and how I haven't met them or what they would do if they were in the characters position.

Well, I'm not responsible for meeting everyone's needs, everyone's fantasies, wants and desires. I write for me, and I chose to share that. Like it or don't like it. Read it or don't read it. That's your choice as a consumer. For me as a provider, I'm happy to put it out there. It's up to you if you want to eat it or not, but commenting that you don't like the plate it's served on is pretty pointless, and without value. 


As for the commenters who tell me what they would have done if they were in Kyle's shoes, again, it's a pointless comment. You're not Kyle. You're someone else entirely. You're not in the story and you don't exist in that universe, so why waste your time telling me what a random stranger such as yourself would have done? What makes you think for one second that's of interest or use or value to me? 

I read every comment that comes in. I read every private message or email that's sent to me. Do I appreciate them all? Most of them, even some of the ridiculous ones. 

But at the end of every message I think about what the person has said and I have to place a value on it. I need to do this so it can worth, weight if you like. So it has value. 

I'm going to leave you with an email I got from someone a couple of weeks ago that I took the time to reply to. Hopefully this will give you a bit more of a perspective what the writers on Literotica have to put up with. 

Finally, if I've offended you with my words here, then my apologies. I've pretty much written this as I see it. It's unedited, unchanged and exactly as I've written it. A blurt or a rant, if you will. Influenced by the readers comments.


JJ




The email:

Considering you described yourself as a dom in your blog, I really miss in the Story a Time where Kyle asserts himself, just says 'fuck you all' and goes of to do his thing. Then they hunt him down and he comes back, but stronger than before. Just an Idea.

He is a wussy in your Story, doing what they tell him to, like a puppy dog. Ok now and then he throws a five minute tantrum like a three year old. I dont know, if it would have been me I would have told them to back the fuck off right at the Beginning, I mean whats the point in being rich, if you live like a fuckin Go-fer. Every one of his Servants has more freedom than he does. I am sure you know what I mean.

I am nearly through with your Story and I really like it. Only that he lives like a submissive pet, while he is theoretically in charge puts me off. But that of course is a matter of taste. Considering how many cuckolding fans there are on literotica it wont damage your rating, dont worry.

The response:

I think there's something you're missing here. Kyle isn't me. He's not a Dom, he has no BDSM experiences and his formattive sexual experience was with a girl he met on spring break. Kyle's definition of the ultimate sexual experience would be an experience like he had with Katie - that emotional connection, symbiotic bond, making love, whatever.
But Kyle's entering new territory....

Then you have to consider the following;

• That his home/family/job/life has been pretty much turned upside down
• That his two figures of sexual fantasy turn out to be his sisters
• That he's adopted and didn't know it
• That he's suddenly got all this money, but this massive responsibility comes along with it
• That he's hiding a big fucking secret that if it gets out could destroy him
• That he's in a world that's unfamiliar to him, where he's still learning the rules and trying to keep afloat
• That he might be getting blackmailed

An ordinary guy in extraordinary circumstances, under enormous pressures. He's not a Dom either, although with the continued influence of Patricia in his life, he may well find he likes it and develop that way. Time will tell on that front though.
I'm still struggling to see him as a submissive pet, and the cuckold comment made me laugh. Cheers for that.

As for the comment on him being 'Wussy' in your story, and what you'd have done. If you walk into a new job as a manager, do you try and figure out what to do, what needs done, what your people are like, who seems competent and what the fuck am I meant to be doing, or do you start laying down the law on how it's gonna be?  That's what we're talking about here. Kyle's doing the smart thing, and he's trying to be a good guy. You might think he's 'Wussy' but I don't see it. He's a guy who's struggling and trying to keep up, while doing the right thing. The responsible thing.

Mail me again when you've finished the story - at least that way you'll have the full picture.

JJ

(And no, I've never heard back)

Writing: Quick Update

Well, after lots of work I finished the re-write on The Island a couple of days ago and sent it off to the proof readers for comment. Quite a few changes to the shape of some of the storylines, as well as all the 'don't-sue-my-ass-compliance' stuff taken care of too.

Then yesterday I got stuck back into the follow-up short story, made really good progress and then last night I started feeling really ropey (and not in a bondage-fun kinda way) so I had an early night. Today it's developed into some kind of man-flu virus thing, so I'm going back to bed. It's very frustrating as I've got all these words, story arcs and dialogue shouting in my head, wanting to get written down on the page. 

I'll get there though... I should have this short story (and by short I mean 20,000-30,000 words - half a novel) done before the comments come back on the new version of The Island, so with luck it should be online in the next few weeks. 

For those of you who have sent me emails and comments asking when it's arriving, and for those of you who have demanded in very impatient terms that there's more story to read, please continue to be patient. It won't be long now.

JJ

Question from Deb: Outrageous Experience

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Question from Anon: What's A Good Sub

Question submitted by an Anonymous visitor:

Tips on what makes a good sub ? 

Well, doing as she's fucking told, is the first answer that springs to mind.... 

However, what you're asking is very similar to asking 'what makes a good pizza'. It's far from a simple question, because everyone's tastes are different. Some like onion, some like tuna, some people prefer their pizza without tomato. Different strokes for different folks, right?

Because of the diversity of behaiour within a Dom/sub relationship it's really down to an agreement in tastes, desires, goals..... or rather kinks, perversions, fantasies and limits. A good sub for what you want might not be a good sub for what I want. 

Then there's the chemistry between the two people - that's 90% of the ball game to me.

So if you're a Dom, you meet a sub, you're getting on great, you're both into the same things or willing to play in the same areas, and you've got some seriously good chemistry going on, then odds are she's going to be a good sub for you. 

But I will go back to the first answer because if she's a good sub..... she'll do as she's fucking told! 

And smile while she's doing it....

JJ

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Accented Editing Accidents

So I've been editing 'The Island' and one of the things I've been changing is a lot of the speech patterns that the characters speak in. It was pointed out to me that sometimes a character will say something that a British or European would say, but not that an American would, so to combat that I've developed a new skill.

I've started reading the dialogue out loud as I edit, but with an American accent. 

While that might not sound unusual to many people, the fact I'm from Scotland, have a broad Scots accent (think Mel Gibson in Braveheart if you don't know what I mean) and that I suck at impersonations is adding up to produce a lot of hilarious moments. 

I find it easier to think of specific actors reading the dialogue in their accented voices, and then for me to copy them so I can hear the flow of the words. The odd thing is, Mister Crowler is somehow now from the deep South, and talks like Vampire Bill in True Blood. That came as a bit of surprise. Katie sounds a bit like Kat Dennings in my head now, because I watched a few episodes of 2 Broke Girls last week but she doesn't quite have the restrained irritation, and somehow Kara sounds like Eliza Dushku. Kinda hot, actually.

The thing is, with all these actors and accents having a conversation and me trying to say them out loud, I find myself getting them mixed up, crossing accents halfway through sentences, and saying some hideous and ridiculous things when the words get garbled. 

Lots of fun though, so I thought I'd pop it up here. :-)

JJ

Growly

 This image does it for me. 

There's so much about it that's just 'right'. The submissive pose, the blindfold, the body language, the way her straps fall off her shoulders, the suggestion that her wrists are tied behind her back. A beautiful woman on her knees awaiting my next command. 

Everything about it speaks to a part of me that wants to growl aloud, something I do when I experience a surge of the horny. 

I've no idea how many times I've glanced at this shot and my eyes have narrowed, or stumbled across it in my search for images and been tempted to repost it. It's rare I favourite a specific image, but this is one of them. I've even searched to see if I can find out who the photographer was so I could drop them an email and say, "Fine work."

It's impressive that a simple image can evoke such a strong reaction from me, as I look at photographs a little differently from most people. I don't just see the content, but see the light, see the technical aspects of the photography, see the framing and composition, see the editing, all these things and more. When I look at this image I see the crop as being too tight at the top, I see the subject as being too centred, the shadow is too deep on the material of her camisole, yet none of it matters. 

The content of this image over-rides the technicality with a power that speaks directly to that 'Dom' part of me. It makes me flex my shoulders in anticipation of something that's never going to happen. It makes my eyes narrow with the surge of desire that increases my heart-rate. 


It makes me growly.


JJ

Publishing

So after several dozen suggestions on the comments of 'Threads: The Island' and lord knows how many emails and messages, I'm converting it to hopefully publish it as an ebook. 

Nervous? Fucking right I am. My first foray into the actual publishing world, putting something I've created up for sale, and hoping people will buy it, but more importantly, like it and want more.

It's a decision that's tinged with sadness though, because it means that once it's actually available as an ebook, it has to come off Literotica, the place where people got to see it in it's original form, complete with typos and littered with celebrities.

So I've been thinking about how to maintain my links with the people who read 'The Island' and generously provided feedback and encouragement, and I've decided that I'm going to post the short stories on Lit for free, and put the novel-length stories onto Smashwords and hopefully Amazon too.

That way it's the best of both worlds, I think. The work that takes the most time and effort gets the chance of financial reward, and the people who liked my writing enough to encourage me to take the step get to read short stories involving the same characters.

As for editing the manuscript for publishing, it's requiring a lot of changes. Anything that could leave me liable has to come out, anything referring to an actual person, or company or product has to come out too, and there's the plot points I wanted to strengthen. Plus an additional twist or six I want to add... However the initial work is going well so far. 

Hopefully you'll buy it when it comes out so you can see The Island at it's best.

JJ

Poll Results

So for the last couple of weeks there's been a few polls on the blog. My thanks to all of you who participated :-)

The first one was about what you'd like to see more of here on the blog. Images seems to be the main focus - more Pervtastic, more Anon Nudes, but with a hefty percentage too of more thoughts. So here's what I'm gonna do....

a) Daily Pervtastic posts, sometimes themed, sometimes not, sometimes more than once a day

b) Trickle the Anon Nudes for now until I step it back up again

c) Keep posting 'Thoughts' posts every couple of days.

d) There 'may' be a guest blogger starting soon, a good friend of mine who's a kink, a fetishist, a wicked laugh and someone who can bring a whole new perspective to the writings here. I'll keep you posted on her as we figure it out.

As for the other poll, Has Anal Gone Mainstream, the results are pretty much a resounding Yes. I have to say first off, the perspectives and comments the blogpost got were really interesting, and also a little frightening. As for the votes, there's a part of me thinks that many of the ticks may have come from some of our gentlemen visitors who hope that Anal has gone mainstrream, rather than voting on the basis of the arguments presented in the post.
Either way, I do love the buttsex. 

As for the two people who voted, 'What's Anal?'... I was one of them. The other made herself known to me last night, and was none other than the guest blogger I mentioned above. I do like a sense of humour!

New polls coming soon, folks.

JJ

Question from Anon: Daddy Dom's

Got this question in from Anon this morning:

There is a variety of Dom "types". Do strict Doms consider Daddy Doms to be weak or overly involved? 

Now this is a really good question that's got me thinking while I'm still drinking my first coffee of the day. I'll try and make my answer coherent....

I love that in the BDSM world there's so much variety and diversity. I love exploring those differences when I'm talking to other people about it, so I tend not to think of 'Dom' in the nature of a job description, with a list of specific generic requirements. I think there's as many different types of 'Dom' around as there are people.

Do strict Dom's consider Daddy Dom's to be weak or overly involved though? I have no idea. I'm guessing some do, some don't, some won't give a shit, and some have never given it any thought at all.

Speaking for me personally, I have difficulty with mentally divorcing the Father/Daughter roles from the Daddy/sub dynamic, and so because of that it automatically reminds me of sexual abuse of children and makes me feel very uneasy. I know that's not what it is, so don't be getting all uppitty and pissed off. I'm trying to explain this. 

I know that's not what it's about, but it makes me feel uneasy, and so do pictures of pornstars dressed in school uniforms, or as cheerleaders. While I can know that the person in that particular image is Debbie McDildo from Dundee aged 24, the way the image is shot seems to me to be targetting guys getting off on girls dressed like schoolkids. So that creeps me out.

Because it creeps me out, I haven't gone snooping and investigating and reading up on 'Daddy Dom's' and to what level they get involved, what the common activities are that they engage in with their sub. I'll happily admit I'm speaking from a position of ignorance, and the same goes for whatever your definition of strict Dom's is. 

I don't consider myself a strict Dom. I won't order a sub around unless it's playtime. I want her to be a real person and not someone who only exists to obey my commands with no power of free will for herself. But again, I'm assuming that's what you mean by strict Dom. 

The joyous diversity of BDSM.

So the short version of the answer. I've no idea if they think Daddy Dom's are weak. I know they creep me out a bit and I've explained why, and I've also admitted that I'm ignorant of the facts. 

Fucking good question, Anon!

JJ

Writers Block

Fucking fuckety fucksticks.... oh, how I loathe having writers block. 

I've tried all the usual suggestions, and even a few of the more unusual ones too, and while I know it's a temporary thing, because it always has been in the past, it makes it so frustrating. I just can't seem to access that creative part of my head that normally never shuts up. 

Yet when I open the blank page the silence is deafening. 

I can plan out a story structure, work out all the events and reactions, sort them into the order I want them, create profiles for my characters, research all the little things that provide a depth of detail that can make a difference in believability. All these things I can do, but words on the page... nothing.

I've been working on the follow-up to 'The Island', writing a short story that will cover the couple of days that Kyle, Patricia, Lakshmi, Casey and Ed are in San Antonio, and it's told from Ed's perspective. Now Ed, if you haven't read The Island, has been compared to Jonah Hill's character in Superbad and to Steve Stiffler in the American Pie movies. He's a bit like them, now that I think of it. I like to think of him as chaos incarnate, a walking profanosaurus with a gift for poor impulse control. As you can imagine, he's a lot of fun to write dialogue for. 

I've got about 10,000 words of it written, and maybe another 20,000 will have the short story finished, but right now it's just not happening. Not yet. But it will. In the meantime I'll suffer the frustration, because I have little choice and I'll keep working away at it. 

In order to vent that frustration, I figured I'd vent on here, because it's my blog and I can. Thanks for reading my moan.

JJ

Withdrawal of Attention

I've been pondering this idea for a few days now. Is withdrawing attention from someone the harshest of punishments, especially in a D/s relationship? 

We've all seen pictures, or videos of various punishments being meted out in the BDSM world, some simple and some outrageous, some innovative and some exotic, and in real life I've engaged in quite a few of them. However, I haven't gone as far as to completely withdraw any attention from my sub. 

In effect, if I were to do so as a punishment, then it would leave my sub without that relationship in place for as long as I chose to do it. Now, to be clear here, I'm not talking about putting her in a room, tying her up and leaving her there on the other side of a closed door. I'm talking complete absence. 

No conversation, no phone calls, emails, text messages, no communication. No personal interaction, no friendly banter, no touching, no comfort knowing the other person is around.... I'm talking no presence whatsoever. Completely and utterly ignoring your existence.

Add into that a carefully manipulated doubt that they may not come back again, and give that seed time to grow. Is that as cruel as you can get between a Dom and a sub? 

Utter coldness, lack of caring, complete isolation from the relationship that was there. Wouldn't that induce grief for the partnership, yet an appreciation for what was there all along? What may be lost?

I know there's a few submissive readers of this blog, and I'd be interested in your thoughts on this subject. Would the loss of your Dom for an undisclosed amount of time, with the doubt that they were ever coming back, be the worst punishment they could inflict on you for a transgression?

Anonymous can comment too, so don't be shy, folks.

JJ

Quotation

Just read this and it made me chuckle, so I thought I'd share it....

Submission without domination is when you keep doing what he wants even after he keeps insisting he doesn't want it. Domination without submission is when he keeps telling you to do something and you keep telling him to fuck off.
~ Linda

 Linda's a smart woman! :-)

Celeb: Actresses

Chicks in TV & Film who make my heart beat a little bit faster...

Here's five to start off, in no particular order;

Kate Beckinsale.

Beautiful features.... but in a PVC catsuit in the Underworld movies? Oh, wow!

Jennifer Connelly.

Stunning eyes, stunning features, amazing actress, with a talent for picking the occasional crap role. Paul Bettany is one lucky bastard... just sayin...

Missy Peregrym

Spotted her in Heroes. Thought she was hot. Then Reaper. Thought she was really hot. Then Rookie Blue. Man, she's hot as a bag of hot things on a heater. (I'd give that gymnastics movie a miss though, if I was you)

Charlotte Sullivan

I first spotted her on Rookie Blue, and as is my way, I see someone hot, I rule 34. So off I went in search of nekkidness, and instead I found a pretty decent actress who's building a career for herself. I also found her as a redhead. And a brunette. And a model. And she's a photographer too. Plus, I think her eyes are amazing.

Anna Friel:

I remember years ago when she was on Brookside - A UK soap - and the huge controversy with the lesbian kiss. How the times have changed. Now she's doing well for herself in the US, but still a brunette, and still gorgeous. Also, a casual approach to nudity in her movies is no bad thing.

I'm sure I'll add more in this style in the future, but I just wanted to throw that one up there. It's by no means a definitive list, but your comments are welcome, as always.

JJ

Changes Afoot...probably

So over the next few days, I'm going to be looking at changing the shape and set-up of the blog.

I figure if I keep posting at anywhere near this prodigious rate, then the menu to find things is going to become ludicrously lengthy. So I'm going to investigate different looks, styles and navigation. 

Please feel free to feedback what you think works and what doesn't. I'm all for making this as participatory as possible, so make your voice heard.

JJ

*UPDATES* 25/01/12 1400hrs

Colour Scheme- changed to white/light-grey for 24 hrs. 
Categories added to menu for quick-filtering posts. Please feel free to test them.
Feedback on changes welcome.....

*UPDATES* 26/01/12 1400hrs
Colour Scheme changed to dark grey/pinstripe for 24 hrs.
Categories trimmed a bit.
Feedback.... still waiting...

Anon Asks: Gaydar Response

Anon Asks: Are you Gay? Or Bi?

 No. 

*shrugs*

I think that about covers that question. Next?

Threads: The Island One Month On

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Question from Anon: You're A Cunt

Question from Anon, submitted via email. 

JJ, 

Your a cunt and heres why. You come up with a plan that gets women to send you naked pictures of there bodys and then you jerkoff over them then photoshop them then post some arty shit. How the fuck did you come up with that idea? I bet you got broed of photoshoping you fucking pornstars because you cant get any real woman to fuck you. Is that why your a cunt?

Anon.

Normally I'd just delete this shit, but I really felt it deserved an airing up on the blog. 

Not only was the spelling, grammar and sheer eloqeunce of the writer an astounding example of the use of the English language, comparable to Shakespeare at his best.  It was the sheer gusto and enthusiasm with which the elegantly phrased question was posed. 

So here's what I emailed back:

Dear Anon,

Go blow your dad. Then hit him in the face for not making sure you got at least a High School education. In fact, punch him in the balls too for being dumb enough to add you to the human gene pool. 

After you're done asking Mom what time supper's ready, and you've jerked off in your favourite sock (you know, the crusty one you keep under your bed), then maybe you should go read some educational stuff, learn how to actually communicate without looking like you've donated too many IQ points to a scientific experiment, and maybe spend some time doing something constructive. Like your homework?


Don't forget to blow your dad though - it'll be good practice for you when you're in prison in later life because you're too fucking dumb to live in society like a normal person. 

And yes, I absolutely am a cunt. You don't want to find out how much. 


JJ


Too harsh?

Has Anal Gone Mainstream?

So with the explosion of the Internet in the last fifteen years, the Porn industry has been able to reach into peoples homes with ridiculous ease. I love that. I like Porn. 

No longer do people have to go down to the papershop, grab whatever tickles their fancy from the top shelf, and hope their mum's best friend doesn't walk in when you're reaching for that copy of Razzle, or Playboy, or Fiesta, or even Playgirl. 

See, the generation that knew about finding soggy porn magazines in the park is older now. We're being replaced. It's all internet now, or video stores with wall to wall HD nakedness. And that's fine. That's the way it goes. But along the way, the Pornogrraphy we've been exposed to has evolved. It's gone from the naked centrefold with a bush thicker than steel wool to shaven pussies, bleached assholes and pneumatic breasts. It's gone to double-anal, hog-tied lactation, 50-guy creampies, and all manner of niches and perversions are catered for. 

And along the way we've seen it, or at least some of it. And most of it now features anal sex. 

So nearly every Porn Starlet takes it in the ass. Most of the take it in the ass and pussy at the same time. Some of them even take two in the ass, and I saw one girl taking three at once. And we go in search of this stuff, looking for the 'wow' factor. If you see one girl taking a cock in her ass for the first time, it's hot. When you've seen a thousand doing it, the appeal wears off a little and it takes something special to get your attention again. 

Now, I'm a HUGE fan of anal. In fact I'd rather have my cock in a girls ass than her pussy. That's my taste, my fantasy if you will, but now I worry for the younger generation growing up who think that anal isn't taboo. A facial isn't taboo, even if you record it and put it online in one of the thousands of amateur streaming porn sites that are littered across this wonderous world wide web. 

I worry that anal has gone from something special to something normal. That it's just another virginity to get ticked off the list, like the handjob, the blowjob, and the pussy. Surely if something is given up so easily, then it's undervalued? And if the expectation that you'll give it up is there from both women and men, then the excitement is surely lessened. 

I love the sensation of feeling a woman allowing me into her posterior. I love that it's fucking dirty. I don't care if my dick comes out with shit on it. It hasn't yet, but I don't care if it does. I LIKE that she'll let me fuck her ass because I value it. I cherish that she'll trust me enough with it. I respect that she's prepared to risk me causing her pain or pleasure, dependent on my skill, patience and persuasion. Plus, I really love that it's submissive, and did I mention dirty?

I sincerely hope Anal hasn't gone mainstream, because if it does, it's lost it's niche value. It's lost it's novelty, and sooner or later, people will stop appreciating it as something special.

Because it is.

There's a poll at the top on the right, feel free to cast your vote, and comments are always welcome. 


JJ

The Methadone Romance

So it occurs to me that I haven't written anything since Saturday. No bloggery, just imagery and a couple of links. So while this isn't a properly thought out and researched piece on some facet of perversion that floats my boat, I wanted to briefly touch on something I posted on a forum a few weeks back.

It was regarding the value of an online Dom/sub relationship.

I made a point that having an online relationship with someone can be exciting, dramatic, romantic, passionate and many other things, but at the end of the day it's never going to be anything other than Methadone. 

Now, for those of you who are having trouble placing what Methadone is, it's the drug they give to Heroin addicts here in the UK as a lesser substitute to keep them off Heroin. A bit like margarine is to butter, I guess. It's similar, but it's not the real thing.

My point about an online relationship, a cyber-affair, e-love if you will, was that if you're going online to find something, it's because you want it. You want it as part of your life, regardless if you have the courage to actually go through with it or not. The desire for it is there, though. Doing it online is a way to try it without actually doing it, like dipping your toe in the proverbial cold swimming pool. The water might be cold, but you're not in it.

I get that people are in relationships, sometimes their partners don't give them what they want, or aren't into the more extreme aspects of sex, so they go online looking to fulfill that need. I don't have an issue with what people do. Go for it. It's a form of experimentation too, and that's a good thing in my book, providing no-one's getting hurt by it.

But let's not lose perspective here. Mucking around online, messaging, texts, photos, webcams, forums, PM's, emails, even phone calls. They're not the real thing. They're the methadone. 

Happy to hear anyone's thoughts on this. Anon's can comment too.

JJ